UPFRONT / MAKE CHANGE
Make time for you
TAKE A SELFIE Sunday March 31 is Mother’s Day. Why not take a little time out to give yourself a present? The Little Book of Self-Care for New Mums is stuffed with tips and information to help nurture those who’ve recently given birth, but its advice will resonate with all parents. Co-author Alexis Stickland tells us about her innovation; Freedom Friday – just for this special day, you could twist it into Sanctuary Sunday…
“MY ENERGY LEVELS WERE at an all-time low, my immune system was battered, I felt frumpy, fed up and my enthusiasm for motherhood had taken a bashing. I was trying to be all things to all people and I was failing to acknowledge that I needed a bit of time occasionally to fill my own cup up to the top, so I could continue to give my children the care and patience they deserved. In the end my husband and I had a frank chat. He suggested to me that maybe a few hours away from our home during the week could help me to recharge. ‘Freedom Friday’ was coined.
We appreciate it isn’t always possible to actually go out, away from your home, in the early weeks and months. Feeding schedules and bedtimes can make it tricky. However,
there are plenty of ways you can enjoy a mum’s night off even in the comfort of your own home. Scheduling in an evening when you will let your partner, family member or friend take your little one for an hour or two while you have some well-deserved time out is so important.
It’s so important to recognise early on that taking time out is not self-indulgent, it’s essential. A happy parent equals a happy baby. Taking that all-important time to refuel can often make you feel calmer and have more energy, which will not only benefit your little one in the long run but will also help you have the most enjoyable and fulfilling postnatal experience possible."
The Little Book of Self-Care for New Mums by Beccy Hands and Alexis Stickland (Vermilion, £12.99)
FEBRUARY/MARCH 2019 www.thegreenparent.co.uk
HOW MIGHT YOU SPEND YOUR FREEDOM FRIDAY? Although these activities may have seemed run of the mill before you had children, believe us, they become a real treat when your days and nights revolve around the needs of your little one. AT HOME: • Take a long sumptuous bath, lights low, candles burning. • Listen to a relaxation track and calm your frazzled brain. • Read a book (so simple yet so hard when you have an unsettled baby). • Take an online exercise class. • Cook for pleasure,
not need. • Relax in bed with your favourite music and drink. • Do a face mask or paint your nails. • Play a musical instrument.
OUT OF THE HOME: • Have a meal and catch up with friends. • Take a class and learn a skill. • Catch a movie. • Go to a gig. • Go to the pub for drinks. • Visit the hairdresser. • Go for a run, swim,
cycle, exercise class. • Have a massage, facial, manicure or pedicure. • Go for a walk.